Wednesday, January 21, 2015
I won't put how much I weigh every post because, as we all know, you just don't drop lbs that quick. Sometimes you lose and sometimes you gain *sigh*
Today's Shake is strawberry, kiwi, banana, celery, carrot, and milk. Once again for being healthy it isn't that bad. Would I say I'd crave these shakes? No way. But I do think that they're helping me.
Along with my shakes I'm eating less portions, drinking a lite cranberry juice, eating more healthy food, not drinking pop, and trying to drink more water.. which so far has only happened at restaurants and a couple times at home. I really dislike drinking water!
To be honest I feel like I've been eating and drinking like this forever... and I don't mean that in a good way. I'm craving boneless wings, pasta, a steak, or something else completely fattening. And it's not that I'm not eating any of this stuff I'm just eating WAY less of it and my body wants WAY more of it. I constantly have cravings.. No, I'm not pregnant.. I've just always had cravings. Typically (Almost always) if I eat something that I'm not craving than I'm still hungry. Fighting the urge to eat everything in sight has not been easy. My husband was under the impression that I was going to just drop everything that I'd normally eat.. I'd love to say I have the willpower to do that, but I don't. My weight loss will take longer than I want doing it this way, but being miserable would make me give up all together and I don't want to be this big any longer.
Is anyone else out there suffering with me on a diet? Do you lack the willpower like me? Or are you one of those lucky people who can go fattening to healthy in .3sec? Please comment and let me know how your diet is going
Monday, January 19, 2015
I'm starting a few things to help me lose weight. Such as shakes in the morning, eating smaller portions, no (or at least way less) pop, and just eating less in general. If I seem upset it's probably because I'm starving!
Today's shake/smoothie/the thing I threw in the blender/whatever you'd like to call it has celery, carrots, blueberries, a banana, some milk, and a little bit of cinnamon.
It may sound gross, but for getting me fruits and veggies it's actually pretty good. I don't taste the veggies so that's a huge plus. I cannot stand celery or raw carrots! I didn't use a recipe I just started throwing some things in there and got something great. So not only will this hopefully help me to lose weight, but it will help me to be creative :-)
Hopefully I can stick with this. My short term goal is 1 lb a month. My long term goal is 125-130 lbs. The short term goal not so hard. The long term kind of seems impossible to be honest. If I keep with my short term goal that's 12 lbs a year which means I'd make my long term goal in... about 3 1/2 yrs. I hope it doesn't take that long, but I've been big for 5ish yrs so 3 1/2 yrs isn't to bad I guess, it's better than being big any longer!
Any advice? Feel free to comment!
Sunday, January 18, 2015
1. Do they want kids
My husband and I when we were dating had this conversation and we almost broke up. I didn't want kids and he did. I eventually just said I'd have a kid and that's that. I'm so glad I chose to have a kid! Look at what I would have been missing! But that's just our story. I hear of plenty of marriages that end in divorce because one spouse wants kids and the other doesn't or they don't want the same amount of kids and they spend their lives unhappy and arguing about it.
2. How are they with money
Money can put major stress on your marriage. If you can't handle an account that sometimes goes negative don't marry someone who isn't good with money. At least one person in the marriage HAS to be good with money.
3. What's their relationship with their family like
It's good to know what to expect. Is he a Momma's Boy? Will he/she be on the phone with their mom all the time? Sharing your business (marriage issues) with his/her family? Or are they pretty much non-existent? Lots of fights? Etc. Just know what you're going to be experiencing and if it's something you're ok with.
4. How do they express anger
This one is a VERY important one to know. Some people don't really get that angry, it takes a lot to make them mad. Others may throw things or yell. Yelling may just be yelling or name calling. Now I DO NOT approve of people yelling and calling names and if you're like me that would cause A LOT of issues in your marriage.
5. Do they have any dreams or career ambitions that marriage might forestall (hinder).
I say if you're going to college it's best to wait to marry until after you've finished schooling. I wish I would have gone to college to get some nice job and whatnot and I know I still could, but now I'm married and a mother and we just don't have the money.
If you're wanting to travel do that first, unless that's a passion of your guy/gal as well and make sure you go everywhere you want to go before before you have kids!
6. How much sex
If you're going into marriage virgins this might be a very hard question to answer. If that's the case you may need to just guess and be honest that you don't know. Now if you aren't a virgin it's safe to say you know about how often.
a. I'd also add that you might want to talk about what your boundaries are, what you're comfortable with, etc.
7. Where do they want home to be
If you want to live where you are now and they want to live in a different town or state that's an issue. Here's your options: a. one of you gives in b. you compromise (half way between where they want to be and where you want to be) c. give it up it isn't meant to be. Figure it out before marriage or you're pretty much doomed to fight a lot.
8. Do they want to sign a prenup
A lot of marriages are failing and I'm sure more and more people are signing prenups. Being asked to sign one may feel like a slap in the face and make them feel like you don't believe that they love you or that you don't believe in your future together. Or it may be something you both want.
9. What is their spiritual inclination
Beliefs are very important. If one of you is Catholic and the other is atheist or one Apostolic and the other is Buddhist it just isn't going to work. One of you would have to convert or you'll have to just call it quits. Think of it this way what happens when you have kids? Where would they go to church? What belief would you teach them? It's important to be on the same page with beliefs and child raising. Does he/she worship trees, God, or nobody?
10. How will you handle the division of labor
Also very important. You need to know what to expect. Is the lady of the house going to work? If so how many hours should she be working? Will she continue to work after the kids come? Is the man the primary worker? Is the woman the primary worker?
BE IN THE KNOW
Marriage is meant to be FOREVER so you want to make sure that you can handle their "quirks" FOREVER. The vow literally say, "For BETTER OR for WORSE'til DEATH do us part" You don't just get the good parts when you're married. You get every good and UGLY detail about your spouse. Morning breath, messy hair, body odor (if you think your spouse will always smell good you're wrong!), bad habits, weird habits, how they sleep (toss and turn, take over the whole bed, hog the covers,...)(Funny story. Miles and I punched, slapped, kneed, and kicked each other for the first maybe month while we were getting used to sleeping with someone else in the bed. Lol.), leaving clothes on the floor, not throwing away their trash (little candy wrappers, disposable plates, or whatever else), not putting the dishes in the dishwasher, never doing dishes, never doing laundry,... ETC. We all have faults, even you aren't perfect and your partner should also be deciding if they can live with your faults.
If you can see yourself with FOREVER, every day for the rest of your lives, in mind dealing with their faults.. not to say you won't ever get bothered by it, but being able to deal with it for the most part then go for it.
Just remember no marriage is perfect. You will eventually fight. One of you may storm out the door to clear your head. But if your communicate, be sure that you never break the trust of your spouse, and remember that the little things are what is truly important (holding hands, kisses before bed/when you wake up/before work/after work, taking time to sit and watch a movie together, etc.) and also with the help of God you can and will make forever with your spouse.
Tuesday, January 13, 2015