I was raised in a home where you clean up your own messes by a man who was always having my mom and I clean up his messes. It was always very irritating to me and I decided that I wasn't going to be cleaning up after people all of my life (of course the exception of cleaning up after my own kids and myself)
So when my husband accidentally spilled some cooking grease on the floor/down the cabinet I felt no need to help him. Just because it was his mess.
I'm sure most people would say I was looking at this wrong, but I am a strong believer in cleaning up your own mess. After all I have to clean the house, why can't he clean up his own mess?