Appreciation. I think people are getting a little confused on what actions are meant for appreciating what things.
A husband and wife show appreciation towards on another:
To appreciate your spouse some people would say that you cook and clean (for a woman) and that you work hard and provide for a man. Now I guess to a degree that could be right, but the way I see it, it's wrong. To fully appreciate ones spouse is to love that person and that person alone with all your heart, mind, body, and soul. You appreciate them by telling them you love them, by never cheating on them, by back scratches, surprise gifts,... It may sound like little things, but haven't we always said that the best things in life are the little things, the little moments?
You don't really clean a house to appreciate your spouse you clean your house because you appreciate cleanliness. Yes, it's nice to clean and your spouse will enjoy it, but that's not really why we do it. It's because it has to be done.
Once again you don't really do it for a spouse. You cook because you appreciate eating and having a full stomach, not starving.
Work is a necessity not an act of appreciation. You do work for you family and yourself out of necessity. Honestly how many of us would work if it wasn't necessary? Case and point.
Appreciation often can't be shown, it's felt. Because no matter how many times you do something nice for someone does it ever really show your full appreciation? No, it doesn't. I rest my case.